Watch Filipa talking about her work with Early Childhood & Parenting see her interview with Conscious Collective Education during lock down Here
Filipa has been growing in NVC skill and integration with 15 years of continual trainings – and through extensive experience teaching NVC since 2010. Much of Filipa’s work is providing Professional Learning Development for the Early Childhood sector around the country and supporting parents. Her Advanced NVC work is expanding online as she supports the international NVC community with online programs. She also donated her work, providing all the NVC content for NVConnect -a comprehensive NVC App for mobile devices released in 2020. Filipa is a founder, trustee and current secretary for this Aotearoa NZ NVC Charitable Trust.
I am deeply grateful for the work of Dr Marshall Rosenberg – for all the ways NVC supports me (and millions of others) to grow my capacities for compassion, authenticity, and freedom; to live aligned to my values and highest aspirations in relationship with myself as well as with others. On this sacred journey of healing my reactivity, I feel blessed to be increasingly empowered to be of service to what I love and care about. The tools NVC offers for ongoing growth to live in human dignity fills me with gratitude for a way to Peace. It is my honour to enable others to access this skill and awareness for their empowerment and well-being.
Parenting is why I became interested in NVC 15 years ago, and where NVC continues to make the most important difference in my life. I believe cultivating our children’s innate internal resources (internal motivation for learning/play, ability to connect and communicate their needs, empathise with themselves and others…) is our best hope for our, and their futures. This requires us to be competent and compassionate models of responsive communication and aware relational skills. My daughters are now young adults and their ability to compassionately connect & communicate with themselves and others, from a strong trust in their intrinsic worth and inner guidance – seeing the generational change possible!
Ongoing personal development is integral to my work and life. My work is significantly influenced by 11 years of learning, practicing, integrating the advanced NVC “Living Compassion’ work of Dr Robert Gonzales. I have completed his 2 year Life program twice, and currently assisting him on his USA Life program. I assisted the 2019 advanced NVC 9mth Parent Peer Leadership online program with Stephanie Bachmann Mattie & Ingrid Bauer – and will again in 20/21. In addition this year I have attended and/or assisted dozens of NVC workshops with many different trainers around the world incl: Yoram Mosenzon, Kathleen Macferran, Mary Mackenzie. Other training’s that have enriched my life and work: week long NVC ‘Life Enriching Education’ retreat USA, NVC mediation, Restorative justice circles, Sociocracy, Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’, Dances of Universal Peace, Landmark Forum, Co-Counselling, Family constellations, Anthroposophical studies & Vipassana meditation.
Other education and experience I bring to my work includes ongoing childhood development study as well as research into trauma. I was six wonderful years taking my daughters through Playcentre and absorbing their comprehensive parent education provided – completing level 3 (I was also treasurer, education officer & facilitator, and Association Librarian). I have studied under inspiring human development educators such as Pennie Brownlee (author of “The Sacred Urge to Play”).
Supporting community and education is important to me and I still enjoy coordinating the Parents Group at the Waldorf/Steiner school my daughters attended. I also enjoy supporting community programs such as Women’s Centre, hosting a free monthly NVC practice group, and contributing to this Aotearoa NVC Charitable Trust.
I have traveled extensively, have an honours degree in English Literature, a post graduate diploma in Information Systems and spent several years as an accounting clerk. Adventure’s with my daughters is still my favorite play time. Developing my ways to share the essential life support in NVC through Communication for Connection is the most rewarding lifework I can imagine.
Feedback from Filipa’s workshop participants…..
Towards the end of 2017 our kaiako community identified a need to enrich the communication skills between us, and also to strengthen our communication with parents in our kindergarten and playgroup community. We were led to a tool; Compassionate Communication, by John Cunningham, and also Non Violent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg. Filipa Hope brought NVC to our community and it has had a deep and lasting impact within the relationships we have with each other, and also our wider communities.
The two day workshop was full of rich learning in how to access a language that seeks to meet each of our needs, nurturing our care and understanding for each other. The best thing about the learning was that it spread deeper into each of our lives than we had originally imagined it would. The way in which we talk with our families, friends, children and partners has become richer in connection. Filipa has a way of guiding this work to meet each of the needs of the group before her, we were a varied bunch of people and each walked away taking learning with us to use in our daily lives.
The investment we made with ourselves and our time with Filipa was definitely worth it. It’s a workshop that will change the way you look at communication with yourself and those in your lives for good.
Manager, FOUR SEASONS – Rudolf Steiner Kindergarten, Taupo
Thank you so much Filipa, for allowing Shayne and I to attend your NVC parenting workshop that your recently facilitated. We both feel that working alongside our Dads and families and within Kidz need Dadz Hawkes Bay that this course will be very helpful indeed. It both meet our expectations and exceeded them. We were not prepared for how this parenting course would also spill into our own personal lives and be so useful in how we communicate within our own organisation and with others in our sector that we work in.
I would strongly recommend the course for other organisations that are involved with working alongside families in the community . What peaceful work places and communities we would have if we could all learn to communicate in this non violent way.
I wish you all the very best and look forward to working with you in the near future with the hope of you to be able to deliver a presentation to our Dads at our Dadzkare meetings.
Cath & Shayne Jeffares, Kidz Need Dadz Hawke’s Bay July 2017
I’ve been on the planet for a good long while now. Although I have a background in teaching and learning communication, it was NVC or compassionate communication that I had wanted to explore at the personal level. Finally at retirement the opportunity presented itself through Filipa’s Foundation Course. The things that stand out about my beginnings in ‘getting my feet wet’ were how encouraged and safe I felt during the practice sessions. This was because of Filipa’s skill in providing practical examples in everyday language…..where we worked with specifics from our own lives but only at our own pace. In these sessions we made genuine connections with others and ourselves. I came to realize just how much ‘in my head’ my previous communication had been: the analysing and the theorizing and the ‘trying to get it right’. This insight came through myself not through someone else critiquing my performance. (the NVC philosophy was alive and well in the way the course was run)
Filipa is a role model for me when it comes to experiencing compassion and authentic presence.
I have a life- long habit of smiling and being pleasant and considering the other person first. I am taking steps in learning about my own needs for genuineness and self-acceptance, but to express this in a way that still considers others. Working with Filipa in the ‘now’ and spontaneously is exciting.
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