Mothering through Anger

“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled” (Marshall B. Rosenberg)

If you struggle when:

• you get annoyed a lot but you can’t figure out why

• you have never had a relationship with anger, and are not sure how to go about feeling or expressing it (so it doesn’t explode)

• your child gets so angry that it is hard to know what to do

• you get angry and don’t know how to hold that anger and mother at the same time

• your child’s outbursts of frustration are challenging for you – and you’d love to find a way to support them through

• you want your child to be able to feel and express their anger, but you don’t know how to go about it

• you need to find a solution to all the throwing, screaming, punching that goes on in your house

Join Anna Banas for this practical online course to explore how to parent through anger – your child’s as well as your own.  This course is for all the mothers, who want to have a relationship with their anger – one where you can listen to it, learn from it, perhaps express it, but not have it be destructive. It is for mothers, because women over generations have had a very different experience of getting angry than men, and we hold stories of anger differently.

You will be gently guided to:

• understand where anger comes from and how to navigate it at its roots

• learn to recognize signals from the body before it’s too late

• discover what triggers you and how to manage those triggers

• learn how to express your anger in a way that is not destructive

• learn to support your child through anger in a productive way

• find proactive ways of helping your child deal with frustration (without waiting until they’ve exploded)

• learn ways of walking with your child through feelings “in the cold” as well as in the heat of the moment

• use Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to understand and express feelings

Expect to:

• take an active part

• share your own experiences

• play with ideas and strategies, in a group setting

• walk away with insights, tools and ideas to try at home

• feel recharged knowing we all struggle with anger, and it does not have to be that way

Course outline: 

Sessions start on July 24th (Thursday) at 19:30 NZST. We will meet for 90 mins each session over a period of six weeks.

The first four sessions will be focussed entirely on mothers’ experience of anger, and the last two will explore ways of supporting children.

To register: https://www.annabanas.co.nz/event-details-registration/parenting-through-anger-1-2

Some topics covered in this course:

• Recognizing our own anger and what triggers it & working towards understanding our patterns. 

• Exploring the language of needs. 

• Neuroscience of anger & managing our own reactivity. 

• The roots of anger in motherhood.

• Recognizing thinking that fuels anger. 

• Increasing our own feelings & needs vocabulary. 

• Supporting children in processing anger and frustration. 

• Listening to big emotions in our children and increasing their feelings & needs vocabulary. 

• Proactive ways of releasing frustration

• Recognizing signs before it’s too late

About Anna:

Anna Banas is a mum, parenting consultant, NVC trainer, lecturer and researcher.

Previous attendees say:

“Anna’s work and coaching has been so transformative for me, giving me new ways to learn about myself and my child’s behaviour, and empowering me to make such positive changes in our lives. I’ve still got plenty of work to do on this path, but I feel like I have a clearer view of the needs I value most in our family and healthy ways to get them met. I have so much gratitude for Anna!”

“I am so grateful for this exploration of anger at its roots – it was really helpful to see where my anger is coming from and be able to notice signs before it’s too late” (Claudia)

“The most important part for me was noticing my persistent thoughts that just fed my anger – I still have them, but I’m able to catch them much faster and I’m so much happier now, even when it’s hard!” (Sarah)

If you have any questions, please get in touch with Anna.