Filipa Hope

Hawkes Bay

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I am deeply grateful for the support NVC has been, and continues to be in my life, particularly the ongoing discovery of the ever-deeper dimensions of self-connection that are possible and experiencing how that helps me connect with my creativity and intrinsic motivation to serve life (mine, others, and all life).  I want to live with as much compassion, authenticity, and presence in my relationships as I can, and NVC scaffolds me do this in ways that nothing else I have come across does.  NVC helps me to stay attuned and aligned with what I value most, able to access my self-awareness, inner wisdom, and empathy even in challenging situations.  It is my absolute pleasure and a privilege to be sharing with others the power of NVC.

I have been teaching NVC since 2010 and I find it the most rewarding work I can imagine (after motherhood).  Being able to help others to learn skills that truly contribute to their personal power and their aspiration to ‘power-with’ relationships with others, is truly a privilege. I welcome invitations to deliver private group/staff trainings around the country and regularly offer NVC parenting and foundation workshops in Hawke’s Bay. I enjoy supporting community programs with NVC, hosting a free monthly local NVC practice group and contributing as Treasurer and Trustee for the NVC Aotearoa NZ Charitable Trust.

I was introduced to NVC in 2006 by my friend and fellow NVC trainer Jocelyn Kennedy.  Jocelyn invited me to a ‘Marshall Rosenberg DVD movie night’ and from that first Marshall ‘meeting’ I felt a deep resonance with his perspective and intention to connect with ourselves and others from the place of our shared humanity.  The practicality and accessibility of the tools of NVC together with the profound dignity within its principles continues to fill me with hope for building our abilities for peace (within and without).

I am currently an approved provider for the NZ Ministry of Education teaching NVC to Early Childhood Educators.    I have a particular interest and passion in NVC as an empowering tool for parents and child/youth educators. Parenting is where NVC has made the most important difference in my life. I believe empowering children with strong inner resources is our best hope for the future.  My daughters are now teenagers and I am deeply grateful for the needs based consciousness of NVC that has supported me to model these essential life skills with them. It feels a blessing to see them enabled to compassionately relate with themselves and others from a strong connection and trust in their intrinsic worth and ability.  I love helping other parents & teachers to increase their ease and effectiveness with connection, communication, clear boundaries, and empathy.

I am currently part of the celebrated 2-year deepening NVC intensive “Living Compassion Life Program”, with acclaimed US trainer Robert Gonzales – for my second time! (I highly recommend Roberts trainings – he is offering a 5-day workshop in Auckland April 2018).  Over the past 11 years I have trained with many talented NVC teachers within NZ and around the world, as well as expanding my skills and awareness with other modalities (such as NVC mediation, restorative circles, Sociocracy, Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’, Dances of Universal Peace, Landmark Forum, Co-Counselling, Anthroposophical & Vipassana meditation and others).  Last year I spent a week in New Mexico learning and networking on the week long ‘Life Enriching Education’ workshop which is based on Marshall’s book by the same title and delivered by the USA NVC Educators Institute team.

Other education and experience includes ongoing childhood development study as well as research into the roots of ‘powerlessness’.  I have a background in early childhood and I was six years taking my own children through Playcentre (very involved as; mum, treasurer, education officer & facilitator, and Association Librarian – completing level 3).  I have also studied under inspiring human development educators such as Pennie Brownlee, author of “The Sacred Urge to Play”. Being an involved mum is still very important to me and I enjoy coordinating the Parents Group at the Steiner school my daughter attends. I have travelled extensively, have an honours degree in English Literature, a post graduate diploma in Information Systems, several years as an accounting clerk, and I still do some book keeping. Time in nature is my favourite recharge through camping, hiking, swimming, and skiing.  I also find great joy in community and love co-creating fun and connection through such activities such as group projects, storytelling, poetry, music, dance.


Feedback from workshop participants…..

Towards the end of 2017 our kaiako community identified a need to enrich the communication skills between us, and also to strengthen our communication with parents in our kindergarten and playgroup community.  We were led to a tool; Compassionate Communication, by John Cunningham, and also Non Violent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg.  Filipa Hope brought NVC to our community and it has had a deep and lasting impact within the relationships we have with each other, and also our wider communities.

The two day workshop was full of rich learning in how to access a language that seeks to meet each of our needs, nurturing our care and understanding for each other.  The best thing about the learning was that it spread deeper into each of our lives than we had originally imagined it would.  The way in which we talk with our families, friends, children and partners has become richer in connection.  Filipa has a way of guiding this work to meet each of the needs of the group before her, we were a varied bunch of people and each walked away taking learning with us to use in our daily lives.

The investment we made with ourselves and our time with Filipa was definitely worth it.  It’s a workshop that will change the way you look at communication with yourself and those in your lives for good.

Traceylee Hooton

Manager, FOUR SEASONS – Rudolf Steiner Kindergarten, Taupo


Thank you so much Filipa, for allowing Shayne and I to attend your NVC parenting workshop that your recently facilitated. We both feel that working alongside our Dads and families and within  Kidz need Dadz Hawkes Bay that this course will be very helpful indeed. It both meet our expectations and exceeded them. We were not prepared for how this parenting course would also spill into our own personal lives and be so useful in how we communicate within our own organisation and with others in our sector that we work in.
I would strongly recommend the course for other organisations that are involved with working alongside families in the community . What peaceful work places and communities we would have if we could all learn to communicate in this non violent way.
I wish you all the very best and look forward to working with you in the near future with the hope of you to be able to deliver a presentation to our Dads at our Dadzkare meetings.

ngā mihi

Cath & Shayne Jeffares,    Kidz Need Dadz Hawke’s Bay  July 2017


I’ve been on the planet for a good long while now.  Although I have a background in teaching and learning communication,  it was NVC or compassionate communication that I had wanted to explore at the personal level.  Finally at retirement the opportunity presented itself  through Filipa’s Foundation Course. The things that stand out about my beginnings in ‘getting my feet wet’ were how encouraged and safe I felt during the practice sessions.  This was because of Filipa’s skill in providing practical examples in everyday language…..where we worked with specifics from our own lives but only at our own pace.  In these sessions we made genuine connections with others and ourselves. I came to realize just how much ‘in my head’ my previous communication had been: the analysing  and the theorizing and the ‘trying to get it right’. This insight came through myself not through someone else critiquing my performance.  (the NVC philosophy was alive and well in the way the course was run)

Filipa is a role model for me when it comes to experiencing  compassion and authentic presence.

I have a life- long habit of smiling and being pleasant and considering the other person first. I am taking steps in learning about my own needs for genuineness and self-acceptance, but to express this in a way that still considers others.  Working with Filipa in the ‘now’ and spontaneously is exciting.

Faith Reed


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